Polish woman, Greek man · Dating and relationships

We build confident men who build happy relationships.

At Dating Decoded we work with men who are tired of dates that end in frustration. We teach confidence, natural flirting and choosing the right person. Psychology without the labels, real-life examples. Message us and find out where to start.

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150+: students
Live: seminars and coaching
11.2K: likes on TikTok
2: perspectives: hers and his

Results

Coaching that brings real results

Most men put time and energy into dating without seeing any change. At Dating Decoded we work on what actually decides the outcome: your confidence, the way you hold a conversation, and how you read the other person.

Confidence you feel in a bar, on a date and at work, not just in theory
Natural flirting instead of rehearsed lines and manipulation
Two perspectives, hers and his, so you know what she really sees

Ilias leading a seminar at a flip chart, with participants seated in front of him

Student stories

Trusted by men who wanted real change

How a student stopped going quiet in conversations

Before: didn’t know what to say to people he’d just met
Worked on things he hadn’t noticed in himself
Now: a night out with friends without constantly wondering what others think

Read the whole message (translated from Polish)

At first I thought coaching would mostly be about how to meet girls, but over time I understood we were working on something much bigger. I had trouble holding conversations, especially with people I’d only just met. I often didn’t know what to say, so I just sat there quietly. Ilias pointed out a few things I hadn’t even noticed in myself before. I started working on them, and over time conversations began to come much more easily. Recently I went out with friends and, for the first time in a long while, I wasn’t constantly wondering what other people thought of me. I just had a good time. Maybe that’s nothing big for some people, but for me it really means a lot. Thanks for the help, Ilias!

How a student approached a girl in a bar on his own

Before: stress about approaching and a lack of confidence
A normal conversation, a good time, and her number at the end
“A few months ago I wouldn’t even have considered it”

Read the whole message (translated from Polish)

Hey Ilias, I wanted to write to you because I can see a big change in myself and I’m really grateful for it. Before coaching I had trouble approaching girls, I often got stressed and lacked confidence. Now it’s completely different – last weekend I approached a girl in a bar on my own, we had a normal chat, had a good time, and at the end I got her number. A few months ago I wouldn’t even have considered it. Thanks for all the advice and for always supporting me!

How coaching changed more than dating

Before: plenty of doubts, gone by the first session
Support at every step instead of just instructions
Now: more confident and more decisive in every area of life

Read the whole message (translated from Polish)

When I started the coaching Ilias runs, I had a lot of doubts, but by the first session I knew I’d made the right choice. Ilias didn’t just tell me what to do, he really supported me at every step. He showed me how to work on my weaknesses and inspired me to become the man I always wanted to be. This coaching wasn’t only about dating. It helped me become more confident and more decisive in every area of life. If you need a real ally, Ilias is someone I recommend without hesitation.

Messages from students. The original screenshots are below.

How we work

A complete approach that brings lasting change

Confidence with a foundation

Rebuild it after disappointment, so the next rejection doesn’t tell you what you’re worth. We work on what you see in yourself, not on a mask.

Natural flirting and reading signals

Learn to hold a conversation, flirt without rehearsed lines, and recognise what the other person is really showing you.

A happy relationship with the right person

Recognise the right person and build a relationship based on trust, not control. From both perspectives, hers and his.

See us in action

Live seminars and practice in real places

Live seminar in front of a full room

Live practice: a first conversation at the marina

Live practice: the conversation continues

Messages from students

Original screenshots. Three are in Polish, one in English.

Student message in Polish: conversations started coming much more easily — Conversations come easier (Polish)

Student message in Polish: he approached a girl in a bar on his own and got her number — A number from the bar (Polish)

Student message in Polish: coaching helped him become more confident in every area of life — Change in every area (Polish)

Student message in English: he is now dating, in his words, the most beautiful and amazing woman on the planet, and thanks the program — A new relationship (English)

The Polish woman and Greek man behind Dating Decoded, a mirror photo

About us

Meet Dating Decoded

Dating Decoded is a Polish woman and a Greek man. She shows you what a woman sees from the other side of the table. He, Ilias, runs the coaching and seminars and shows you what works in practice when you’re the man making the effort.

Online, men and women increasingly end up on opposite sides of the barricade. We’re on the same side, with plenty of differences between us. That’s why we make dating simpler instead of picking who’s to blame. Psychology without the labels. Real-life examples. More than 150 students.

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We build confidence with a concrete plan

We work with men who want real change, not another theory. Message us, tell us where you’re stuck, and we’ll tell you what we’re running now and whether it’s right for you. Most of our content is in Polish; ask us what’s available in English.

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